I'm a guy, and I'm 18. I've never had a g/f or b/f, and I'm still a virgin. But I really am bi...and right now I'm a lot more attracted to guys.
Well there is this guy that is back in town for the summer...he's back from college. He's 19 and he is so hot. I ran into him a month ago where I work (VONS the grocery store) and i asked him if he wants to hang out...and he said yeah. I called him a couple weeks ago but he was out of town...so I called him again today and when I called he sounded REALLY happy that I called him. We're going to hang out this Thursday.
The thing I need help with is...I really have a feeling he's bi or gay...I just need to find out. He is so hot...so cute...and I have feeligs for him. Maybe if I bring it up that I'm bi...if he's bi, then he'll say he is too.
I dunno...what should I do here?
Full Version: I'm bisexual...and I need some advice...
It's easy for anyone to just say "go with your intuition," but honestly, it's the best advice. Approach him in a manner that possibly could be played off as a joke. If he doesn't like you like that, he'll tell you. The thing you have to worry about is how he might act after, that is, if he isn't gay or bi-sexual.
That was going from personal experience. Luckily, the guy I thought was straight is now an ex.
That was going from personal experience. Luckily, the guy I thought was straight is now an ex.
I think true bisexuals are very rare, even nonexistent (maybe)
I think you may be gay or above sex. Love is love, then again you only named physical attraction, so I think you may be gay; I am by no means an expert though. Baby or crushy or nova may be able to give a better answer.
I think you may be gay or above sex. Love is love, then again you only named physical attraction, so I think you may be gay; I am by no means an expert though. Baby or crushy or nova may be able to give a better answer.
it just occurred to me...
Ask Miss Kitty!
she knows all...
Ask Miss Kitty!
she knows all...
Bisexuals exsist... But they're usually more attracted to one sex than the other.
But yeah, I agree with Jason on this one.
But yeah, I agree with Jason on this one.
My thoughts are that sexuality is more of a cuntinuum than a "this" or "that" situation. People are in different places along the cuntinuum, and maybe where you are with your sexuality chnges over time. A vaugue and ambiguous answer from a person who sees nothing in black and white and everything in grey, I know. But still if you like someone, and you think the person is into you, I think you ought to just approach the person the way you normally would. That has little to do with sexuality and more to do with your flirting skills:) I think, be yourself, but know he may just not be into guys, so don't feel too shut down if he doesn't respond.
I agree with Jason and GR. You'll never really know unless you ask. The important thing to remember is you can communicate without making a move. That way there's less humiliation if he IS straight.
I couldn't disagree with QP more though. I exist! To give support to Kayli's theory, I am more physically attracted to women...but I've always been more comfortable with men.
I couldn't disagree with QP more though. I exist! To give support to Kayli's theory, I am more physically attracted to women...but I've always been more comfortable with men.
QUOTE(LaissezFaire @ Jul 19 2005, 12:07 AM)
I'm a guy, and I'm 18. I've never had a g/f or b/f, and I'm still a virgin. But I really am bi...and right now I'm a lot more attracted to guys.
Well there is this guy that is back in town for the summer...he's back from college. He's 19 and he is so hot. I ran into him a month ago where I work (VONS the grocery store) and i asked him if he wants to hang out...and he said yeah. I called him a couple weeks ago but he was out of town...so I called him again today and when I called he sounded REALLY happy that I called him. We're going to hang out this Thursday.
The thing I need help with is...I really have a feeling he's bi or gay...I just need to find out. He is so hot...so cute...and I have feeligs for him. Maybe if I bring it up that I'm bi...if he's bi, then he'll say he is too.
I dunno...what should I do here?
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Well there is this guy that is back in town for the summer...he's back from college. He's 19 and he is so hot. I ran into him a month ago where I work (VONS the grocery store) and i asked him if he wants to hang out...and he said yeah. I called him a couple weeks ago but he was out of town...so I called him again today and when I called he sounded REALLY happy that I called him. We're going to hang out this Thursday.
The thing I need help with is...I really have a feeling he's bi or gay...I just need to find out. He is so hot...so cute...and I have feeligs for him. Maybe if I bring it up that I'm bi...if he's bi, then he'll say he is too.
I dunno...what should I do here?
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I'll have to agree with above, it sounds like an infatuation. And I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Seeing that you've never really had any intamacy (nor have I, atleast that much) is that maybe you're just curious, If you ever have any feelings to want to do more with a man or woman it would probably benefit you, because maybe you could figure yourself out more "Do I really like this?" or "Do I feel uncomfortable?" I just think it's a lot of confusion, which a lot of people go through but don't be afraid to show your emotions or feelings.
-john
the bottom line: have sex with someone who turns you on!
And remember and use a condom. 
^Looking out for his fellow forum members
apparently appearing out of n o where...
I'd say live a little.
It's better to know straight away what his intention are rather than just hanging out. The more you hang out, the more you'll attatch. There's no point in building yourself up.
My advice; Try and make your intentions lie out on the front. Don't hide that you fancy him, don't enhance it. Just do what seems right, and that way you wont get too dissapointed if he's not. Atleast you'll have a friend you can act natural around - and hey. there are plenty more fish in the sea.
Or,
Just say that you're going through a lot of changes and say you're bi. Maybe he'll say "Me too."
Or,
Get him drunk, and then have a chat about stuff like that. Drink is an excuse if it goes wrong.
(I'd do my first one, if I was you.)
It's better to know straight away what his intention are rather than just hanging out. The more you hang out, the more you'll attatch. There's no point in building yourself up.
My advice; Try and make your intentions lie out on the front. Don't hide that you fancy him, don't enhance it. Just do what seems right, and that way you wont get too dissapointed if he's not. Atleast you'll have a friend you can act natural around - and hey. there are plenty more fish in the sea.
Or,
Just say that you're going through a lot of changes and say you're bi. Maybe he'll say "Me too."
Or,
Get him drunk, and then have a chat about stuff like that. Drink is an excuse if it goes wrong.
(I'd do my first one, if I was you.)
LY, I LOVE that you just said "fancy him" Oh, I totally hear your posts with an accent. Makes me smile real big!!!
QUOTE(girlsroom @ Jul 19 2005, 08:25 PM)
LY, I LOVE that you just said "fancy him" Oh, I totally hear your posts with an accent. Makes me smile real big!!!
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That was my fav part too! It gave it that extra flava....
But in all honesty, a few cocktails wouldn't hurt a bit...I'd go with that.
Good luck to ya.
QUOTE(girlsroom @ Jul 20 2005, 03:25 AM)
LY, I LOVE that you just said "fancy him" Oh, I totally hear your posts with an accent. Makes me smile real big!!!
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Haha,
Good
Or you could fist him up the pee hole. Hahaha. Go figure y'all. 
i always thought this thread was the most fun.
Go for it before you regret it for the rest of your life....
Shut up, skank, you're 7 months late.
QUOTE(Glinda @ Jan 31 2006, 10:37 AM)
Shut up, skank, you're 7 months late.
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Thats Mr. Skank to you.
QUOTE(Glinda @ Jan 31 2006, 12:37 PM)
Shut up, skank, you're 7 months late.
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Amen.
Dear baby Jesus, please kill all skanky people.
Love Glinda
AMEN.
Love Glinda
AMEN.
QUOTE(Glinda @ Jan 31 2006, 02:08 PM)
Dear baby Jesus, please kill all skanky people.
Love Glinda
AMEN.
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Love Glinda
AMEN.
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AND PLEASE KILL PEOPLE THAT SAY TO KILL "SKANKY PEOPLE" WHEN THEY ARE SKANKS THEMSELVES.
AAAAAAAAAMMMMMMMMEEEEEEEEEEENNNNNNN.
Dear Aunt Glinda,
How can yous top a skank?
How can yous top a skank?
AGH.
you can only top a skank when the skank is submissive or under the date rape drug.
QUOTE(fucked up blair23 @ Feb 1 2006, 05:15 AM)
you can only top a skank when the skank is submissive or under the date rape drug.
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hehe, mah spelling is gude.
How am I a skank?
Dear Queero,
You can stop a skank with a flamethrower.
Love Auntie Glinda xxx
P.S. please put future questions in the Agony Aunt thread!!
Dear Queero,
You can stop a skank with a flamethrower.
Love Auntie Glinda xxx
P.S. please put future questions in the Agony Aunt thread!!
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