I'm supposed to ask people this question as an assignment for my psych of gender class, but, like I said, I'm too lazy to actually find people and ask them. So, if you guys would be so kind as to answer that question below, I would appreciate it. Otherwise, I'll just make up some results.

Okay, so here it is:

A deep emotional attachment, Marci-it is FAR WORSE!
In fact I am sort've dealing with a situation like that now & it's why I feel edgy some of the time...

aww kf4
that's sad


i agree
1) Imagining your partner forming a deep emotional attachment to that person.
so awful

It could aslo just be me being a paranoid bitch, but I don't think so. It's not that serious, I guess-but if it becomes an issue, I will take care of it...

I imagine that asking the group is not the same as asking people individually, because each of us can see what the other's have written and it changes what we might say.

That being said, I would also have said that an emotional bound is more upsetting.

We all know that sex can either be meaningful or not and the existence of sex by itself does not necessarily mean that there is an emotional connection underneath.

I've got a question for the rest of y'all. If someone that you had a deep emotional bound was keeping something from you (had admitted it), would that bother you? Would it bother you that they couldn't tell you what it was?

Ha. Probably. But, like I said I'm too lazy to do it, so, possibly biased results are better than the results I would have made up had I not asked you guys.

definitely one.

I'm going to say two, and not because I'm a frosty hearted bitch with no emotional maturity, but because I know how it feels.

I think I'd have gone for one if there was no "passionate" mention in number two, because that implies the accumulation of some feelings, even if just on the spare of the moment. In that time of sex. But you have a physical expression there as well.

I think I'd be more hostile to the person if they began forming a deep emotional bond. Because then I'd feel like this person either cared more about me than them (enough so to block out those emotions) and I'd feel I was holding him back from exploring something that maybe I knew I couldn't give him as well in that moment, or he was too cowardly to confront me on this, or too comfortable as much and then I just wouldn't want to think, feel or assess the situation. It's fucked up but I know what I mean.

you just wanna choose something different.
anyway, aren't you the one who always cheats

No I'm bloody well not.

no, as we all have secrets that we keep from people. even the ones we love. just because we are seeing someone doesn't mean our lives have to be a completely open book.